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Passion & Purpose Thoughts on Change

Some Things Never Change

It’s interesting to reflect on where we’ve been as we look forward to where we may be going. When I started this blog I thought I could write about topics that would help others overcome barriers and get out of their own way. I suppose that goal was achieved, but not for others, not in the ways I imagined.

Writing in this public fashion allowed me to see the barriers and obstacles that still needed to be examined in my own life. Clearly, I still have some work to do.

I stopped writing during the summer because we were busy traveling. Then I didn’t write because I was busy with a new job. Now, as my first full-time semester winds down, I’ve been inspired to write again. This time I’m aware that the reflections are for me.

If you’ve seen any of my social media posts or had an IRL (in real life) conversation with me, then you know how much happier I am now than I was this time last year. One part of that change is that I am constantly engaging with people who are passionate about what they do.

College professors do not teach for the money! Many of them teach because they are in love with their subject. They would rather read and discuss research than just about anything else. Others are passionate about their responsibility for encouraging and educating our future leaders. I’m one of the lucky few whose research interests and passion for supporting the next generation are overlapping areas of inquiry.

As a new faculty member, I was assigned an official mentor. That turns out to be a great idea. I have also received support from many unofficial mentors at Gordon. These folks don’t need anything else for their tenure review portfolio. They could stop growing now and be set for the rest of their lives, but they don’t. I’ve written elsewhere about the support from several of these superheroes.

One of them, who I haven’t written much about, shared his personal blog with me this morning. I experienced a wide range of thoughts and emotions as I read through Alan Burstein’s experiences and reflections. I laughed. I cried. I also stopped to ponder the “new initiatives” in light of his reflections from 2011. I’m struck by the idea that “the more things change, the more they stay the same.”

Here is a quote that stopped my train of thought for a few minutes.

“I often remind the occasional irate student who grumbles I’m PAYING for this,that actually, she’s only paying for about half of this;the other half comes from the people of Georgia. They too are our investors, and their investment is best rewarded by our ensuring that students are not pandered to as customersbut instead both respected and valued as Georgia’s future while held accountable to a standard worthy of the people’s investment.

I stopped to ask myself a few questions. How do I show students that I respect them? How is this different from showing them that I value them? Am I truly holding my students accountable to a standard worthy of our investment? If not, what do I need to change? If so, what are the keystone values, processes, or activities that demonstrate these ideals?

I am learning to ask about and reflect on the larger history, the meta-history if you will, before talking about plans for the future. I probably should have learned that a long time ago. In any case, the practice of reflection seems to be the key to superior teaching that spans across the changes and initiatives of the decades.

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Passion & Purpose

Looking For The Positive

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Life is full of experiences. The way we interpret the meaning of those experiences is up to each of us. Just like we all have different preferences in music and food, we also have different ways of understanding the people and events that happen around us.

A few weeks ago, I started to feel frustrated. There were things happening that I did not agree with, things that were not directly affecting me, but still indirectly affected the way I operated in the world. These were things I wanted to change. They were things that I thought could have been handled better or at least handled differently.

As life would have it, people started coming to me for advice on what they should do about their own frustrating situations. Now, this is not a coincidence. I have learned enough to know that I will find what I am looking for. The brain is an amazing organ that seeks what you ask it to seek and solves the problems that you ask it to solve.

If you talked to me over the past several weeks, and you happened to ask me how I was doing, then you heard me say something like…”I’m looking for the positive.” That’s my way of reminding myself of what Thumper said in Bambi, “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” I was well aware of my personal outlook. I was also aware that my outlook could easily sway the opinions of the people I talked to.

Fortunately, I found the positive that I was looking for, but not in the place I thought I would find it. Isn’t that the way it goes? I truly believe that God is the Divine Comedian. He will show me what I need to see, but usually in a completely different way than I expected.

Here’s what I found…purpose and passion can make the biggest difference when you’re trying to move from frustration to fulfillment. These past couple of weeks, while I was looking for the positive, I have met some amazing people who are completely in love with what they are doing with their lives. I’ve met politicians, engineers, homemakers, project managers, teachers, and insurance agents who truly believe that they are making a difference in the world by doing what they do.

That is the positive that I needed to see. I didn’t know it at first, but my frustration was related to seeing apathy in the people I thought should have been passionate about what they were doing. I was frustrated by watching people go through the motions when a little more passion could have made a big difference for a lot of people.

These conversations reminded me of a couple of lessons that I thought I had learned…

  • Focus on what you can control
  • Celebrate the small wins
  • Remember who you do it for
  • Talk about the positive
  • You will find what you look for

So, what’s the point of all this talk about passion and purpose? If you don’t know why you do what you do, you will probably feel frustrated. If you allow yourself to focus on the things you can’t control, you will probably feel frustrated. If you are not doing what you are called to do, you will almost certainly feel frustrated.

But, if you can notice when you are feeling frustrated, look for the positive, and remind yourself to focus on what you can control, then you can move back toward that amazing feeling of fulfillment.

Most people who read this probably know what it feels like to be in a flow state and be completely engaged in what you are doing. You have probably experienced the feeling that what you are doing right now is exactly what you are supposed to be doing right now.

But, I realize that some people may have never felt this way…this feeling of fulfillment. If you haven’t, here are some pointers to move you in that direction:

  • Pay attention to the things you love to think, read, learn, and talk about
  • Find ways to build more of those things into your day
  • Notice the way you feel when you make time to do something you love
  • Talk about the things that make you feel alive
  • Above all, share your passion with others because passion is contagious.

Can you imagine what our world would be like if everyone could find and do something they love?